If I am always rushing to solve my toddler’s problems, then when do I decide to stop solving problems for her?  When do I change the rules and tell her it’s time to start developing her own problem solving skills?  I’d rather her start develop her problem-solving skills right away -- and for her to gain the self-confidence that results from overcoming her challenges.  If I knew I could fix my children’s problems their whole lives long, I probably would.  But since I can’t, I let my toddler struggle.  I’m there for her, not to solve her problems, but to watch and support her failures, and her triumphs.